Dr. Mary Ellen O’Toole coined the term “injustice collector?” She writes: “An ‘Injustice Collector’ is someone who sees injustices in many, if not most things that happen to them in life. Injustice Collectors can misperceive the smallest slights and turn them into major events and they can accumulate these injustices for years. Their response to… Continue reading “Injustice Collector,” Anyone?

Healing takes waiting. Especially when it’s worth the wait. Waiting. For fruit. For result. Healing One of life’s most essential lessons. Nowadays, at this time of the global pandemic, we wait for a lot of things to bring us back to “normal.” That takes patience. Pressing forward despite the seeming delays. As Habakkuk says in… Continue reading Healing Takes Waiting

Love Based on Image? It’s February, our yearly love month. And I get to think about love again. As well as ponder it along with individuals in-session and out. In Netflix, there’s a current hit film love story, Bridgerton. It’s like a dream dance, which people love. Many times, the love dance can be built… Continue reading Love Based on Image

Creative Cure. One of my favorites in the therapeutic realm. I’m thinking of “mantra” as a form of psychological creative cure. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the word “mantra” means a sacred counsel or mystical formula. Mantra can be an effective therapy tool to help people heal. In the theatre of life in my sessions,… Continue reading Creative Cure

Truly Live, Not Just Exist? You’ve experienced abuse.  Actually this thought comes from inside…because everyone have their own perspective towards life and own ways to cherish it Whether physical, psychological, emotional, financial, or even spiritual, the abuse may have developed a great deal of strength in you. In psychotherapy, the work you do is to move… Continue reading Truly Live, Not Just Exist

It’s a paradox. The more you get self aware, the more you get anxious. That’s Bernadette’s situation.  Years of exposures and struggles in her relationship with her Mom have always led her to “fuse” with her. When her Mom gets sick, she feels sick too. When she gets angry, she too. When she’s anxious or… Continue reading Emerge or Merge

Loneliness Epidemic? Even before the COVID-19 pandemic, public-health experts were concerned about an epidemic of loneliness in the U.S Loneliness is not pleasant to talk about. Nor is it a nice feeling to experience. Some studies show that continual loneliness can lead to inflammation, which makes the body susceptible to numerous illnesses.  This time of the Coronavirus globally, the experience of… Continue reading A Loneliness Epidemic

May I ask you this question over and over again? “What do you want?” Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life? Think. Reflect. Meditate. Feel. One simple, innocent question. Yet the most evocative and inadequately fulfilled aspect… Continue reading What Do You Want?

I think of responsibility as response–ability: the ability to respond to life, people and events. While you may not be responsible for most of what happens. For some time, I’d worked with Noel, a 27-year-old young man who remained jobless. He blamed it all on his father. It’s not his doing.  It’s his father’s doing that… Continue reading “Response-Ability” is Key

In Your Memories, Not in The Grave? At our first session, Riza’s eyes were filled with tears while I was speaking to her. Her mother died then only a few days ago. For the next 7 years or so, Riza continues to visit her Mom in the grave and celebrate her birthdays together with her… Continue reading In Your Memories, Not in The Grave