Good trouble versus bad trouble. Be a good troublemaker. Yes, it means not the bad kind. For there is a difference between two kinds of trouble. Marie has a husband who is a serial womanizer and wife-beater. All these years, she just endured the pain and injustice. She simply kept quiet. She didn’t want to… Continue reading Good Trouble Versus Bad Trouble
Healing happens at a point when you can already be at ease with your self and memories. It’s the fullness of time. Psychotherapy provides for that need for concord or consonance. Expression of your whole story during the process starts it. So you can move towards deeper awareness and resolution. As noted author, therapist, and… Continue reading At Ease With Your Self And Memories
It’s time to stop making excuses. It holds a major key in moving your life forward. As Sonia Ricotti, bestselling author of the book “Bouncing Back,” put it: “Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.” Excuses are common in persons with mental health challenges. They’re a staple… Continue reading Time To Stop Making Excuses
Are you afraid of loving? Do you have issues with intimacy or closeness in relationships? From psychological research and practice, men do. But it’s not just the men. Women too have this kind of fear. A wise man once wrote, “The most courageous act you can perform is to truly love someone.” “I gave all… Continue reading Are You Afraid Of Loving?
Behavior that is observed changes. We can call it accountability. Those who choose to be accountable for change have the greatest hope for change. One time, a close cousin of a future patient, Roel, saw me at the Holiday Inn. To plan for “rehab” of Roel from womanizing, financial debts, domestic violence, and alcoholism. This… Continue reading Behavior That Is Observed Changes
Being selfish hurts you. It is dangerous. Not just psychologically and spiritually but also relationally. It creates bad effects on one’s overall well being. Selfishness or self-centeredness is natural in a child. But in an adult, it is childish and immature. That’s where the hurt is. A hurt that can last a… Continue reading Being Selfish Hurts You
Who is a sex addict? I hate labels used on people, such as this. I prefer to use “person with a sexual addiction.” Anyway, the term “sex addict” (as cited by experts) refers to a person with compulsive sex-related behavior that is out of control.For instance, Bob, a middle aged patient, is particularly concerned with a deep… Continue reading Who Is A Sex Addict?
Don’t sit too much. For your mental health. Not just physical. Especially when you’re depressed, grieving, or traumatized. During the earlier months of the pandemic, I had Boris, a teenage high school patient. He’s always sitting in his room. Too much for hours, even missing meals. Playing games. Porn. One day, his Mom found him… Continue reading Don’t Sit Too Much
To fill your inner voids is to focus on your self. You stop focusing on others or things to do that for you. It’s so common for people to be “attached” to another person. Be it parent, child, friend, or spouse. The attachment can turn into unnecessary neediness or clingy-ness on the object of the… Continue reading Focus On Your Self
“Give your stress wings and let it fly away,” once wrote Terri Guillemets. Many of us struggle with stress in personal life, work, relationships, money, among other areas Stress is a given in our human existence. Everyone experiences it, whether physical, mental, emotional, financial, relational etc. Psychotherapy is one process that can be stressful to… Continue reading Give Your Stress Wings