Beware: Porn kills you. Porn thrills you. Then, it kills you. When it gets full-blown, it leads you to the grave. “I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to stop it. But I can’t choose and control it. I wanna die,” shared Rey, a married medical doctor of his many-years secret activity during… Continue reading Beware: Porn Kills You
Forgive but also face the facts. Forgiveness is a major key to healing deep psychological wounds. Psychology, science, and medicine now strongly assert that forgiveness is imperative to mental health. That’s why it’s important to have a right and clear understanding of this one important tool in psychotherapy. Mary was physically beaten and emotionally abused… Continue reading Forgive But Also Face The Facts
I’ve discovered that therapy is more intuitive. It shows in how people progress or change. By “intuition,” I mean a person’s capacity or grade level in progressively sensing and feeling the truth. Some call it common sense, knowingness, or even extra sensory perception. Encyclopedia Britannica gives a technical definition: “Intuition: the power of obtaining knowledge… Continue reading Why Therapy Is More Intuitive
Your life depends on stable data. Stable data and mental health go together. One definition of sanity states that it’s “the ability to tolerate confusion and to recognize a stable datum.” We may call it the “stable data principle” of mental health. In every person, there appears a “gradient scale” of the relative values of… Continue reading Your Life Depends On Stable Data
How do you deal with a jerk? Mental health is often damaged and wounded by people who offend or wrong you. As psychiatrist and author, Dr. Paul Meier, once advised in dealing with impossible people, “It’s a jungle out there, and it’s full of jerks!” Dr. Meier defines being a “jerk” as “exhibiting any selfish… Continue reading How Do You Deal With A Jerk?
We have hope beyond the grave. Awhile ago, I was watching images on TV of large masses of graves in the streets of India. They died from Coronavirus. India, the world’s worst Covid surge this 2021, finds itself drowning in the millions of deaths and illnesses of its people. Such image reminds us more strongly… Continue reading We Have Hope Beyond The Grave
Do you want 5 cents of psychiatry? I heard it from the popular Peanuts comic strip. Its enterprising character, Lucy, advertised “psychiatric help” for 5 cents. Linus went to Lucy’s office. He complained about his deep feelings of depression. When he asked her what she can do about his depression, Lucy quickly replied, “Snap out… Continue reading Do You Want 5 Cents of Psychiatry?
Understand your transference. Dr. Jacqueline Olds, Dr. Richard Schwartz, and Harriet Webster, in their book “Overcoming Loneliness in Everyday Life,” write: “Transference is actually a simple concept. It means that we are not capable of experiencing a relationship as genuinely new and completely free of distortions. Instead, our experience with people in the present is… Continue reading Understand Your Transference
When you get over your pride, you begin to heal and grow. Countless people struggle with this though. It’s a common and widespread source of personal brokenness. It is of two kinds: good and bad. It’s good, for instance, when you feel proud of your kid’s medals or accomplishing something to save people’s lives. Get… Continue reading Get Over Your Pride
People heal in psychotherapy when they avoid premature termination. Therapist Dr. Ryan Hooper defines “premature termination” in psychotherapy as: “a patient’s decision to end therapy, contrary to both the therapist’s current recommendation and the initial agreement between therapist and patient” If you’re going through therapy right now, it’s important that you understand “premature termination” and… Continue reading Avoid Premature Termination