Within the self is where you witness how people really change. Every one of us can change for the better. Every day is a day of opportunity for that to happen. As Leo Tolstoy said, “True life is lived when tiny changes occur.” You look in the mirror. Take stock of your self. Ask: “Who… Continue reading How People Really Change
Category: Addictions
How Do You Deal With Toxic Behaviors?
How do you deal with toxic behaviors? Henry has a sister with a bad mouth. She criticizes, judges, and puts people down. Henry visits his bedridden 85-year-old Mom. His Mom lives with his sister who mistreats and lashes out at her daily. How does Henry deal with the toxic behaviors of his sister? This is… Continue reading How Do You Deal With Toxic Behaviors?
Understanding Shame and Its Cure
Psychotherapy is the business of understanding shame and its cure. “I feel ashamed,” said a teenager about his years of pornography habit. “It gets me to think of killing my self.” In my life when I was a teenager, I got hooked in chess and collecting chess books. I played in tournaments and needed resources… Continue reading Understanding Shame and Its Cure
Is It Addictive Sex or Healthy Sex?
Ask yourself a question about your personal sexuality: Is it addictive sex or healthy sex? Arnie feels trapped. He can’t control the almost-daily habit. His porn and casual sex with masseurs in the spa. After work, that’s when his addictive sexuality strikes. A time when he feels tired, drained, or bored. Arnie uses addictive sex… Continue reading Is It Addictive Sex or Healthy Sex?
When People Drive You Crazy
When people drive you crazy, what do you do? There’s no doubt that we get crazy when we don’t get what we want from people. Shiena was about to blow her lid last night. Her anxious nerves were mixed with anger towards her husband. She complained about her husband’s insensitivity, criticisms, and lack of attention… Continue reading When People Drive You Crazy
Never Walk Away From Your Self
A basic principle in mental health is to never walk away from your self. Chronic mental health problems, such as involving depression, loneliness, or addiction, always involves “eviction of one’s sense of self.” This “eviction of one’s sense of self” is worse than being evicted from your home or apartment. It’s deadlier. Last week, Dindo… Continue reading Never Walk Away From Your Self
Habits That Work For You
Develop habits that work for you. Not against you. In psychotherapy and life recovery, we need to be on constant lookout. We hunt for and discern the nature of our habits in our minds. Habits that work for you include habits such as: eating fruits and vegetables, exercise, enough sleep, being kind or encouraging to… Continue reading Habits That Work For You
Stop Quitting And Start Training
Stop quitting and start training. Never give up. Train your self to rise above your crises. Adversity reveals the stuff you’re made of. When you find your self quitting on you and your life, it’s time to stop quitting and start training. During the terror reign of Adolf Hitler, the Jews were being hunted. They’re… Continue reading Stop Quitting And Start Training
Learn to Think Clear and Pure
To reach your goals – what you want for your life – you need to learn to think clear and pure. That takes concentration. With effort – enough or more. The point is, it can be done. It’s self-evident that you cannot think clear and pure without concentration. If your thoughts fly here and there,… Continue reading Learn to Think Clear and Pure
What Are “False Values?”
What are “false values?” An article from Bright Side cites 9 false values that modern society imposes upon us. One is this one: “A successful person should have a car, an apartment, and the latest iPhone.” A Chinese client, Wong, came from a rich taipan family. Five years after college, he had a nervous breakdown.… Continue reading What Are “False Values?”
