Here’s a common sight in psychotherapy: You repeat what you don’t repair. When things remain unresolved, that’s when history can automatically repeat itself. Often. Sonny is beaten up by his girlfriend. Both verbally and physically. After almost a year, he has decided to break up with her. What took him that long? There’s a logical… Continue reading You Repeat What You Don’t Repair
Category: Sex Addiction Therapy
Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Are you ready to stop being your own worst enemy? The question reminds me of the old Winnie the Pooh book/movie. In a conversation about who the real enemy is, Winnie the Pooh, a talented poet, simply points that the real “enemy is you!” Your own self can be your greatest enemy when you need… Continue reading Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Searching For Inner Satisfaction
We are all searching for inner satisfaction. It is an ongoing quest from the time we enter to the time we exit this world. Here’s the reality. In this world of false shining objects, it’s easy for people to get lost. Run faster. Consume more. Materialism, for instance, is one of those which makes a… Continue reading Searching For Inner Satisfaction
How Reality Is Lost or Obscured
Especially in addictions, reality is lost or obscured in a person’s mind. It’s typical and common, among a wide assortment of addictions existing nowadays. Ravi Zacharias, who died a few months ago, was a brilliant mind in Bible apologetics and ethics and noted author of books. He has been in the news headlines for the… Continue reading How Reality Is Lost or Obscured
Stumbling? Just Get Up!
Stumbling? Just get up! Don’t beat yourself up for stumbling. Keep that priceless counsel all the days of your life. To stumble is human. Normal. Nobody is perfect. If you are stumbling, welcome to the club. It guarantees you’re a fellow human. Psychotherapy is in the business of stumbling. Sessions are populated by humans who… Continue reading Stumbling? Just Get Up!
Unrealistic Expectations Are Unhealthy
Unrealistic expectations are unhealthy. They can be a heavy burden. It’s not easy or light, psychologically. “He’s an impossible boss doc. Even with positive results, you won’t hear him say ‘Good job!’ remarked Boris of the unrealistic expectations of his employer. A once-dedicated 21-year-old budding writer loses his love for the art. It’s because he’s… Continue reading Unrealistic Expectations Are Unhealthy
Your Mission Gives Your Life Meaning
Your mission gives your life meaning. It fulfills one of life’s “ultimate concerns.” Look what happens when you don’t have a mission. A purpose … a meaning … in your journey of life. Dr. Viktor Frankl, founder of Logotherapy, calls it various names: “malaise of the soul,” “existential vacuum,” “existential frustration.” Or, in simple language,… Continue reading Your Mission Gives Your Life Meaning
You Can Control Your Emotions
Whether you can believe it or not, you can control your emotions. Countless times, this issue has always been a primal concern of wounded individuals in my sessions. Especially true for those who have been abused or traumatized since early years. Carlos was stuck last night. Still in much tears. He’d feel the same emotions… Continue reading You Can Control Your Emotions
Acceptance Versus Resignation
Acceptance versus resignation Acceptance doesn’t mean passive resignation. They’re two different things. Acceptance is a key psychological concept in psychotherapy and life recovery. It’s an internal attitude in effectively coping with trauma, abuse, or any tough situation. But most of the time, it has to be clarified and explained. Noel is stumbling beneath a deep… Continue reading Acceptance Versus Resignation
The Illusion of Control
The illusion of control was something I could do little about for Alan. Alan was 40 and had been referred to me by a medical doctor from a large hospital. I only had a first session with him. He refused to cooperate in therapy. He came to me in extremis – abandonment of his wife… Continue reading The Illusion of Control
