Acceptance versus resignation
Acceptance doesn’t mean passive resignation. They’re two different things.
Acceptance is a key psychological concept in psychotherapy and life recovery.
It’s an internal attitude in effectively coping with trauma, abuse, or any tough situation.
But most of the time, it has to be clarified and explained.
Noel is stumbling beneath a deep financial wound.
He finds himself experiencing escalating depressive moods and insomnia.
He has mounting credit card debts that remain unpaid.
He is also at the same time recovering from the trauma of being financially scammed online a few times.
Should Noel accept his financial wound as part of his personal development?
Yes, of course.
You may be thinking, “Right, accept it! Thanks!”
But acceptance is not the same as passive resignation.
Noel, in accepting his present suffering, needs to make it an active choice. That he’s not escaping or just enduring.
That he is … actively working through it.
That he is … taking concrete, responsible actions to overcome the crisis and challenge.
Psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually, Noel’s financial pain may be God’s gift in his life.
He wants Noel to surrender to Him his plans, his pain, his anxieties, his fears, his anger, his guilt to Him.
He wants Noel to let go so He can work.
The financial pain could be God’s way to grow and strengthen Noel’s psychological state, his spirit, his character.
With that fundamental in place, Noel will now be in a stronger position to take practical responsibility over his crisis and self growth.
To sum up:
Acceptance simply means that you accept that your situation occurred.
Passive resignation means totally giving up and no hope of overcoming.
Remember that difference: acceptance doesn’t mean passive resignation.
“Suffering, once accepted, loses its edge, for the terror of it lessens, and what remains is generally far more manageable than we had imagined.”— Lesley Hazelton