Psychotherapy is the business of understanding shame and its cure. “I feel ashamed,” said a teenager about his years of pornography habit. “It gets me to think of killing my self.” In my life when I was a teenager, I got hooked in chess and collecting chess books. I played in tournaments and needed resources… Continue reading Understanding Shame and Its Cure
Category: Self Help
Is It Addictive Sex or Healthy Sex?
Ask yourself a question about your personal sexuality: Is it addictive sex or healthy sex? Arnie feels trapped. He can’t control the almost-daily habit. His porn and casual sex with masseurs in the spa. After work, that’s when his addictive sexuality strikes. A time when he feels tired, drained, or bored. Arnie uses addictive sex… Continue reading Is It Addictive Sex or Healthy Sex?
Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
Practice affirming the unaffirmed. It can be a most important single factor in effective psychotherapy. Harry was a mental health worker in a psych facility. He didn’t train in psychotherapy. But he knew what to give to a mentally disturbed person. One of the sickest patients he had was a psychotic woman. She’s been there… Continue reading Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
From Lamentation to Happiness
Let’s learn to turn from lamentation to happiness. Is lamentation your way of life? During this time of the Coronavirus pandemic, we all experience grief. We experience the problems, the heartache, the misfortune that has beset us. Under the weight of all these losses and woes, we feel a need to mourn and lament. And… Continue reading From Lamentation to Happiness
Never Walk Away From Your Self
A basic principle in mental health is to never walk away from your self. Chronic mental health problems, such as involving depression, loneliness, or addiction, always involves “eviction of one’s sense of self.” This “eviction of one’s sense of self” is worse than being evicted from your home or apartment. It’s deadlier. Last week, Dindo… Continue reading Never Walk Away From Your Self
Debts and Mental Health
Debts and mental health: How are you paying off your debts? Ask Ralph Waldo Emerson. He said, “Pay every debt as if God wrote the bill.” This pandemic, we live in a time with too much accumulating debts. Incurred not just by people, but also by governments. They’re debts to address the impact of damage… Continue reading Debts and Mental Health
Habits That Work For You
Develop habits that work for you. Not against you. In psychotherapy and life recovery, we need to be on constant lookout. We hunt for and discern the nature of our habits in our minds. Habits that work for you include habits such as: eating fruits and vegetables, exercise, enough sleep, being kind or encouraging to… Continue reading Habits That Work For You
Stop Quitting And Start Training
Stop quitting and start training. Never give up. Train your self to rise above your crises. Adversity reveals the stuff you’re made of. When you find your self quitting on you and your life, it’s time to stop quitting and start training. During the terror reign of Adolf Hitler, the Jews were being hunted. They’re… Continue reading Stop Quitting And Start Training
Learn to Think Clear and Pure
To reach your goals – what you want for your life – you need to learn to think clear and pure. That takes concentration. With effort – enough or more. The point is, it can be done. It’s self-evident that you cannot think clear and pure without concentration. If your thoughts fly here and there,… Continue reading Learn to Think Clear and Pure
What Are “False Values?”
What are “false values?” An article from Bright Side cites 9 false values that modern society imposes upon us. One is this one: “A successful person should have a car, an apartment, and the latest iPhone.” A Chinese client, Wong, came from a rich taipan family. Five years after college, he had a nervous breakdown.… Continue reading What Are “False Values?”
