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What Are “False Values?”

What are “false values?” An article from Bright Side cites 9 false values that modern society imposes upon us. One is this one:  “A successful person should have a car, an apartment, and the latest iPhone.”  A Chinese client, Wong, came from a rich taipan family.  Five years after college, he had a nervous breakdown.… Continue reading What Are “False Values?”

You Must Accept Your Self Come What May

You must accept your self come what may. Healing through self acceptance is to tell yourself to accept yourself. Warts and all. A lot of people are depressed, insecure, or addicted due to a lack of or inadequate self acceptance.  As we walk around this confused world, we’re bombarded with so many false values. False… Continue reading You Must Accept Your Self Come What May

Is Porn Destroying Your Marriage?

Is porn destroying your marriage? Your romantic relationship?  Since his teenage years onwards, Erwin, a therapy client, binges on pornography. Everyday. Almost without fail.  “I can’t control it, doc,” he said during a Zoom therapy session. “It’s been a long time now since our baby was born, my wife wants no more sex!” Last year,… Continue reading Is Porn Destroying Your Marriage?

Focus In The Present

Learn to effectively focus in the present. To be “fully present” in the present. As Jim Elliott put it, “Wherever you are, be all there.” As you do, you learn a healing way of life. It supports the integration of your whole being. Marissa had a lot of “holdovers from the past.” She used to… Continue reading Focus In The Present

Choose Your Battles

Choose your battles. Say no to nit-picking. Pick only the majors that truly matter. Avoid the minors or trivial. I’m reminded of this saying by Philipp Melanchthon, “In essentials, unity; in nonessentials, liberty; in all things, charity.” A problem that derails this principle is “nit-picking.”  Merriam Webster dictionary defines “nit-picking” as …“a minute, and usually… Continue reading Choose Your Battles

Self Image and the Mind

Self-image and the mind go together. What you think about yourself in your mind shapes the way you live. Cecil Osborne, author of the book “The Art of Understanding Yourself,” writes: “The conscious and unconscious feelings you have about yourself constitute your self-image. This self-image you will act out in life. You will always tend… Continue reading Self Image and the Mind

Love Is The Medicine

Love is the medicine. Healing love in a birthday poem of a husband to his wife. Yes, during the Covid year 2020.  See how this healing love looks and feels like in the said poem: “A long time ago, I was a lonely man.  A very broken man. Walks were filled with tears flowing from… Continue reading Love Is The Medicine

Daily Walks Clear Your Mind

Do you know that daily walks clear your mind? Yes, daily walks. About 20 minutes or so. That is proven to be therapeutic and health-maintaining. “Solvitur ambulando,” Saint Augustine once remarked. In plain English, it translates “It is solved by walking.” I walk each day. Usually, after my writing and therapy work, I take my… Continue reading Daily Walks Clear Your Mind

Mistakes Don’t Make You A Loser

Believe it, mistakes don’t make you a loser. The truth is, you are allowed to make mistakes even on your own.  There will surely be hits and misses. Give yourself permission to make heaps of them. You are allowed to be imperfect. You are human. Mistakes don’t make you a loser. The earlier you realize… Continue reading Mistakes Don’t Make You A Loser

The Psychological Wound of Perfectionism

The psychological wound of perfectionism is a secret wound that cries for help. Brandon and Betty are a gifted couple. They’re high scale in accomplishments in their respective fields.  Brandon, in sports and corporate life. Betty, in art and academics. They’re a power couple. Then one day, they came to see me.Their life went tumbling… Continue reading The Psychological Wound of Perfectionism

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