To fill your inner voids is to focus on your self. You stop focusing on others or things to do that for you.
It’s so common for people to be “attached” to another person. Be it parent, child, friend, or spouse.
The attachment can turn into unnecessary neediness or clingy-ness on the object of the attachment.
Jamie has been suffering from severe depression and panic anxiety for some time now.
Her feelings focus solely on her husband after she discovered his infidelities.
The more she does that, the deeper the sorrows she experiences each day. And the more frequent her panic anxiety moments.
Jamie’s need? Healthy detachment.
To “focus on yourself” is healthy detachment. A shift of focus from object of attachment to your own self and well being.
In so doing, you bring the power to your own self. Enough of you in the shadows!
By focusing on your self, you take the wheel. You take charge and find strength no matter the circumstances.
Yes, you can still be actively engaged with someone or something. But you are internally free, unattached to the outcome.
You stop running away from yourself. You take responsibility to face and heal your wounds, your shadows and demons.
You focus on finding solutions. On the act of loving rather than waiting to feel loving.
In focusing on your self, you become the author of your days.
You define your best life no matter what the other person is choosing or doing. No matter the result or what’s happening.
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” — Dr. Carl Jung
“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.” —Yogi Bhajan.
“Focusing on yourself isn’t selfish. It’s an act of self-love. But when you’ve been in the habit of focusing on others, it can be hard to shift gears.” —Crystal Raypole