Practice affirming the unaffirmed. It can be a most important single factor in effective psychotherapy. Harry was a mental health worker in a psych facility. He didn’t train in psychotherapy. But he knew what to give to a mentally disturbed person. One of the sickest patients he had was a psychotic woman. She’s been there… Continue reading Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
Category: Trauma Psychotherapy and Recovery
Never Walk Away From Your Self
A basic principle in mental health is to never walk away from your self. Chronic mental health problems, such as involving depression, loneliness, or addiction, always involves “eviction of one’s sense of self.” This “eviction of one’s sense of self” is worse than being evicted from your home or apartment. It’s deadlier. Last week, Dindo… Continue reading Never Walk Away From Your Self
Dealing with “Ghosting”
Dealing with “ghosting” can be a mental health issue faced in personal relationships. “Ghosting,” based on the Oxford Languages, is defined as: “the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation, withdrawing from all communications” Minda was frustrated, upset, and confused. Her daughter suddenly cut communications with her since landing… Continue reading Dealing with “Ghosting”
Habits That Work For You
Develop habits that work for you. Not against you. In psychotherapy and life recovery, we need to be on constant lookout. We hunt for and discern the nature of our habits in our minds. Habits that work for you include habits such as: eating fruits and vegetables, exercise, enough sleep, being kind or encouraging to… Continue reading Habits That Work For You
Stop Quitting And Start Training
Stop quitting and start training. Never give up. Train your self to rise above your crises. Adversity reveals the stuff you’re made of. When you find your self quitting on you and your life, it’s time to stop quitting and start training. During the terror reign of Adolf Hitler, the Jews were being hunted. They’re… Continue reading Stop Quitting And Start Training
Learn to Think Clear and Pure
To reach your goals – what you want for your life – you need to learn to think clear and pure. That takes concentration. With effort – enough or more. The point is, it can be done. It’s self-evident that you cannot think clear and pure without concentration. If your thoughts fly here and there,… Continue reading Learn to Think Clear and Pure
What Are “False Values?”
What are “false values?” An article from Bright Side cites 9 false values that modern society imposes upon us. One is this one: “A successful person should have a car, an apartment, and the latest iPhone.” A Chinese client, Wong, came from a rich taipan family. Five years after college, he had a nervous breakdown.… Continue reading What Are “False Values?”
Pain Is A Motivator To Healing
In my own psychotherapy practice, pain is a motivator to healing. It’s a common sight during sessions. Emotional or mental pain, in particular. People want relief and recovery. By pain, I refer to a person experiencing significant difficulty and suffering in handling life’s issues. Dr. Leon Saul, a psychiatrist and professor from the School of… Continue reading Pain Is A Motivator To Healing
Focus In The Present
Learn to effectively focus in the present. To be “fully present” in the present. As Jim Elliott put it, “Wherever you are, be all there.” As you do, you learn a healing way of life. It supports the integration of your whole being. Marissa had a lot of “holdovers from the past.” She used to… Continue reading Focus In The Present
Choose Your Battles
Choose your battles. Say no to nit-picking. Pick only the majors that truly matter. Avoid the minors or trivial. I’m reminded of this saying by Philipp Melanchthon, “In essentials, unity; in nonessentials, liberty; in all things, charity.” A problem that derails this principle is “nit-picking.” Merriam Webster dictionary defines “nit-picking” as …“a minute, and usually… Continue reading Choose Your Battles
