Believe it, mistakes don’t make you a loser. The truth is, you are allowed to make mistakes even on your own. There will surely be hits and misses. Give yourself permission to make heaps of them. You are allowed to be imperfect. You are human. Mistakes don’t make you a loser. The earlier you realize… Continue reading Mistakes Don’t Make You A Loser
Category: Creativity, Art
The Psychological Wound of Perfectionism
The psychological wound of perfectionism is a secret wound that cries for help. Brandon and Betty are a gifted couple. They’re high scale in accomplishments in their respective fields. Brandon, in sports and corporate life. Betty, in art and academics. They’re a power couple. Then one day, they came to see me.Their life went tumbling… Continue reading The Psychological Wound of Perfectionism
Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day
A popular saying is, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” It’s simply one expression of an undeniable fact-of-life. Essential, worthy things do take time. It entails process. Enough waiting. Especially about things that matter in our lives, such as our health or relationships. Especially about things that naturally evolve and grow, like our brains or… Continue reading Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day
You Repeat What You Don’t Repair
Here’s a common sight in psychotherapy: You repeat what you don’t repair. When things remain unresolved, that’s when history can automatically repeat itself. Often. Sonny is beaten up by his girlfriend. Both verbally and physically. After almost a year, he has decided to break up with her. What took him that long? There’s a logical… Continue reading You Repeat What You Don’t Repair
Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Are you ready to stop being your own worst enemy? The question reminds me of the old Winnie the Pooh book/movie. In a conversation about who the real enemy is, Winnie the Pooh, a talented poet, simply points that the real “enemy is you!” Your own self can be your greatest enemy when you need… Continue reading Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Stop Comparing Your Self with Others
Listen very carefully: stop comparing your self with others. Well, it’s something you know already. Right? Yet it remains easier said than done. Especially nowadays, the number of categories through which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite! Cars. Houses. Degrees. Titles. Sexy Body. Number of Friends. Families. Business success. Clients. Sales. Project output.… Continue reading Stop Comparing Your Self with Others
Stumbling? Just Get Up!
Stumbling? Just get up! Don’t beat yourself up for stumbling. Keep that priceless counsel all the days of your life. To stumble is human. Normal. Nobody is perfect. If you are stumbling, welcome to the club. It guarantees you’re a fellow human. Psychotherapy is in the business of stumbling. Sessions are populated by humans who… Continue reading Stumbling? Just Get Up!
Unrealistic Expectations Are Unhealthy
Unrealistic expectations are unhealthy. They can be a heavy burden. It’s not easy or light, psychologically. “He’s an impossible boss doc. Even with positive results, you won’t hear him say ‘Good job!’ remarked Boris of the unrealistic expectations of his employer. A once-dedicated 21-year-old budding writer loses his love for the art. It’s because he’s… Continue reading Unrealistic Expectations Are Unhealthy
Your Mission Gives Your Life Meaning
Your mission gives your life meaning. It fulfills one of life’s “ultimate concerns.” Look what happens when you don’t have a mission. A purpose … a meaning … in your journey of life. Dr. Viktor Frankl, founder of Logotherapy, calls it various names: “malaise of the soul,” “existential vacuum,” “existential frustration.” Or, in simple language,… Continue reading Your Mission Gives Your Life Meaning
You Can Control Your Emotions
Whether you can believe it or not, you can control your emotions. Countless times, this issue has always been a primal concern of wounded individuals in my sessions. Especially true for those who have been abused or traumatized since early years. Carlos was stuck last night. Still in much tears. He’d feel the same emotions… Continue reading You Can Control Your Emotions
