Believe it, mistakes don’t make you a loser. The truth is, you are allowed to make mistakes even on your own. There will surely be hits and misses. Give yourself permission to make heaps of them. You are allowed to be imperfect. You are human. Mistakes don’t make you a loser. The earlier you realize… Continue reading Mistakes Don’t Make You A Loser
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The Psychological Wound of Perfectionism
The psychological wound of perfectionism is a secret wound that cries for help. Brandon and Betty are a gifted couple. They’re high scale in accomplishments in their respective fields. Brandon, in sports and corporate life. Betty, in art and academics. They’re a power couple. Then one day, they came to see me.Their life went tumbling… Continue reading The Psychological Wound of Perfectionism
Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day
A popular saying is, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” It’s simply one expression of an undeniable fact-of-life. Essential, worthy things do take time. It entails process. Enough waiting. Especially about things that matter in our lives, such as our health or relationships. Especially about things that naturally evolve and grow, like our brains or… Continue reading Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day
Need to Impress Others?
Do you feel a need to impress others? Is it a deep thirst for you? Listen to what Vernon Howard once wrote: “The need to impress others causes half the world’s woes.” You hear it right: Need to impress others = Woes. A common life area where this often happens in people is in the… Continue reading Need to Impress Others?
Healing Your Anxiety Disorder
Healing your anxiety disorder is external and internal. Both is required. External involves authoring your days. That’s the practical considerations, such as your food and exercise, your family or relationships, recreation, and work productivity. Internal involves facing your inner fears and wounds. Therapists call it your “shadows” or inner demons. That’s the psychological, emotional, and… Continue reading Healing Your Anxiety Disorder
Face All Your Demons and Shadows
“Face all your demons and shadows,” advised actress/TV executive Charo Santos-Concio in a rare interview sharing about her recovery from depression. She’s sharing a well-recognized therapeutic principle in psychotherapy and life recovery. Psychologists agree in general that every action that hurts us is an unconscious effort to avoid the real problem. According to a noted… Continue reading Face All Your Demons and Shadows
Unrealistic Expectations Are Unhealthy
Unrealistic expectations are unhealthy. They can be a heavy burden. It’s not easy or light, psychologically. “He’s an impossible boss doc. Even with positive results, you won’t hear him say ‘Good job!’ remarked Boris of the unrealistic expectations of his employer. A once-dedicated 21-year-old budding writer loses his love for the art. It’s because he’s… Continue reading Unrealistic Expectations Are Unhealthy
Your Mission Gives Your Life Meaning
Your mission gives your life meaning. It fulfills one of life’s “ultimate concerns.” Look what happens when you don’t have a mission. A purpose … a meaning … in your journey of life. Dr. Viktor Frankl, founder of Logotherapy, calls it various names: “malaise of the soul,” “existential vacuum,” “existential frustration.” Or, in simple language,… Continue reading Your Mission Gives Your Life Meaning
You Can Control Your Emotions
Whether you can believe it or not, you can control your emotions. Countless times, this issue has always been a primal concern of wounded individuals in my sessions. Especially true for those who have been abused or traumatized since early years. Carlos was stuck last night. Still in much tears. He’d feel the same emotions… Continue reading You Can Control Your Emotions
Acceptance Versus Resignation
Acceptance versus resignation Acceptance doesn’t mean passive resignation. They’re two different things. Acceptance is a key psychological concept in psychotherapy and life recovery. It’s an internal attitude in effectively coping with trauma, abuse, or any tough situation. But most of the time, it has to be clarified and explained. Noel is stumbling beneath a deep… Continue reading Acceptance Versus Resignation
