Understand your transference. Dr. Jacqueline Olds, Dr. Richard Schwartz, and Harriet Webster, in their book “Overcoming Loneliness in Everyday Life,” write: “Transference is actually a simple concept. It means that we are not capable of experiencing a relationship as genuinely new and completely free of distortions. Instead, our experience with people in the present is… Continue reading Understand Your Transference
Category: Books
Get Over Your Pride
When you get over your pride, you begin to heal and grow. Countless people struggle with this though. It’s a common and widespread source of personal brokenness. It is of two kinds: good and bad. It’s good, for instance, when you feel proud of your kid’s medals or accomplishing something to save people’s lives. Get… Continue reading Get Over Your Pride
Avoid Premature Termination
People heal in psychotherapy when they avoid premature termination. Therapist Dr. Ryan Hooper defines “premature termination” in psychotherapy as: “a patient’s decision to end therapy, contrary to both the therapist’s current recommendation and the initial agreement between therapist and patient” If you’re going through therapy right now, it’s important that you understand “premature termination” and… Continue reading Avoid Premature Termination
Books Are Good For Your Brain
Books are good for your brain. That’s what the neuroscientists and psychologists would tell us. Last year, especially during the early months of the pandemic, people were locked down. They’ve a lot of “mental chatter” dealing with the impact of the virus in our lives. It only makes things worse psychologically and emotionally for many.… Continue reading Books Are Good For Your Brain
Learn to Think Clear and Pure
To reach your goals – what you want for your life – you need to learn to think clear and pure. That takes concentration. With effort – enough or more. The point is, it can be done. It’s self-evident that you cannot think clear and pure without concentration. If your thoughts fly here and there,… Continue reading Learn to Think Clear and Pure
What Are “False Values?”
What are “false values?” An article from Bright Side cites 9 false values that modern society imposes upon us. One is this one: “A successful person should have a car, an apartment, and the latest iPhone.” A Chinese client, Wong, came from a rich taipan family. Five years after college, he had a nervous breakdown.… Continue reading What Are “False Values?”
You Must Accept Your Self Come What May
You must accept your self come what may. Healing through self acceptance is to tell yourself to accept yourself. Warts and all. A lot of people are depressed, insecure, or addicted due to a lack of or inadequate self acceptance. As we walk around this confused world, we’re bombarded with so many false values. False… Continue reading You Must Accept Your Self Come What May
Choose Your Battles
Choose your battles. Say no to nit-picking. Pick only the majors that truly matter. Avoid the minors or trivial. I’m reminded of this saying by Philipp Melanchthon, “In essentials, unity; in nonessentials, liberty; in all things, charity.” A problem that derails this principle is “nit-picking.” Merriam Webster dictionary defines “nit-picking” as …“a minute, and usually… Continue reading Choose Your Battles
Self Image and the Mind
Self-image and the mind go together. What you think about yourself in your mind shapes the way you live. Cecil Osborne, author of the book “The Art of Understanding Yourself,” writes: “The conscious and unconscious feelings you have about yourself constitute your self-image. This self-image you will act out in life. You will always tend… Continue reading Self Image and the Mind
Love Is The Medicine
Love is the medicine. Healing love in a birthday poem of a husband to his wife. Yes, during the Covid year 2020. See how this healing love looks and feels like in the said poem: “A long time ago, I was a lonely man. A very broken man. Walks were filled with tears flowing from… Continue reading Love Is The Medicine
