“All we are is dust in the wind.” Once said a Kansas’ band popular song “Dust in the Wind:” “I close my eyesOnly for a moment, and the moment’s goneAll my dreamsPass before my eyes, a curiosityDust in the windAll they are is dust in the windSame old songJust a drop of water in an… Continue reading All We Are Is Dust In The Wind
There will be hard days. But they won’t last forever. Such as these difficult 2020 and 2021 years of the ongoing Covid pandemic. This too shall pass. In the meantime, as the world changes, people change. Many of life’s deepest lessons and realizations that rush upon us these trying times are simply not attainable during… Continue reading There Will Be Hard Days
Addicts need strategies to resist addictive cravings. Without it, relapses are bound to get out of control. Ray was a porn and sex addict. When he started therapy, he essentially had no strategies in place to manage his addiction. For instance, the matter of “decoding feelings.” Ray’s sex is about addiction, not about healthy sexuality.… Continue reading Resist Addictive Cravings
You are a whole person. Every human being is composed of four essential parts: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. No one is whole or complete without all of them. This therapeutic insight is most commonly neglected by secular medical doctors, psychologists, counselors, and educators today. It’s tragic. In our culture, media, and educational systems, we’re… Continue reading You Are A Whole Person
Within the self is where you witness how people really change. Every one of us can change for the better. Every day is a day of opportunity for that to happen. As Leo Tolstoy said, “True life is lived when tiny changes occur.” You look in the mirror. Take stock of your self. Ask: “Who… Continue reading How People Really Change
How do you deal with toxic behaviors? Henry has a sister with a bad mouth. She criticizes, judges, and puts people down. Henry visits his bedridden 85-year-old Mom. His Mom lives with his sister who mistreats and lashes out at her daily. How does Henry deal with the toxic behaviors of his sister? This is… Continue reading How Do You Deal With Toxic Behaviors?
Psychotherapy is the business of understanding shame and its cure. “I feel ashamed,” said a teenager about his years of pornography habit. “It gets me to think of killing my self.” In my life when I was a teenager, I got hooked in chess and collecting chess books. I played in tournaments and needed resources… Continue reading Understanding Shame and Its Cure
Ask yourself a question about your personal sexuality: Is it addictive sex or healthy sex? Arnie feels trapped. He can’t control the almost-daily habit. His porn and casual sex with masseurs in the spa. After work, that’s when his addictive sexuality strikes. A time when he feels tired, drained, or bored. Arnie uses addictive sex… Continue reading Is It Addictive Sex or Healthy Sex?
Do you have GAD? GAD stands for generalized anxiety disorder. It differs from normal, short-lived worry. A person with GAD does not experience the world in an ordinary way. A mother and daughter visited a Covid swab facility. It’s same event yet different reactions. The mother conceptualized and experienced it as terrifying, even catastrophic. The… Continue reading Do You Have GAD?
You can be young throughout life. The brilliant cellist Pablo Casals was 90. Lots of people his age would obsess over death or illness. And talk gloomily. But not Pablo. He thought and talked of new life instead. He remained active. Each day, Pablo was reborn playing his music to the world. PsychoCybernetics founder, Dr.… Continue reading You Can Be Young Throughout Life