To forgive is letting go of past hurts. Forgiveness and your past hurts. They do seem to always conflict. Let’s understand a bit more here this known scientific healing factor called forgiveness. And how it relates to past hurts – whether it’s for self-forgiveness or other-forgiveness. Remember Timon and Pumba from The Lion King? They… Continue reading To Forgive Is Letting Go Of Past Hurts
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How to Survive Infidelity
For the betrayed and the wayward spouse/partner, there are basic steps on how to survive infidelity. This is what I cover at the outset when counseling couples wounded by infidelity or extramarital affairs. The basic steps help the couple get some distance from their emotional reactivity. It’s foundational so they can bring initial equilibrium in… Continue reading How to Survive Infidelity
Patient Ghosting in Therapy
Patient ghosting in therapy does happen. Ghosting, what ghost? In the context of relationships, including therapist-patient relationship, the word “ghost” (verb) is defined as … “To end a personal relationship with someone suddenly by stopping all communication with them.” Patient ghosting in therapy is disrespect. Impolite. I’ll-mannered. It reflects unfavorably on the patient or person… Continue reading Patient Ghosting in Therapy
Discover Your Wounded Inner Child
Discover your wounded inner child. American author and psychotherapist, Dr. John Bradshaw, explains that, “Any psychological wound that is not properly tended to, especially if it was sustained during youth, is liable to nourish the shadow side of our personality.” Children do get wounded. Emotionally. Psychologically. Physically. As well as spiritually. Often by dysfunctional, toxic parents.… Continue reading Discover Your Wounded Inner Child
Don’t Cheat Your Self
Don’t cheat your self. Dare to face the truth. One of the worst habits many people have is cheating, deceiving, or fooling themselves. A deadly habit that sabotages their lives. Because they dare not face the truth. Psychotherapy is a deep search for personal truth. It’s fraught with challenges and dangers. For the human heart… Continue reading Don’t Cheat Your Self
Take Notice What You Fail To Notice
Take notice what you fail to notice is a must. That is, if you are to heal and change in your life. Psychiatrist and author, Dr. R.D. Laing describes how hard it is to “take notice.” He writes, “The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And… Continue reading Take Notice What You Fail To Notice
Choose To Save Your Self
Choose to save your self. When I was a boy, I was scared. Lonely. Adrift. Felt orphaned, cut off. Unprotected. A core of anger emerged. My rationality stripped away. I was unprepared for its emergence. In family, school, relationships. One time, I almost burned our family house. Bottles of gasoline. Lighter. And my lost, loveless… Continue reading Choose To Save Your Self
Be Strong At The Broken Places
Be strong at the broken places. You learn that from literary great Ernest Hemingway. “The world breaks everyone, and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” Imagine a life without brokenness. Without problems. Without adverse circumstances. A life so easy and uncomplicated. Life is going to be impoverished if this is so! It is brokenness,… Continue reading Be Strong At The Broken Places
Solitude Is Not Loneliness
Solitude is not loneliness. Loneliness or solitude? Know the difference. Loneliness is at every age. No age bracket is immune from it. I got that from William Shakespeare. In his “The Seven Ages of Man.” He depicted in his own way how loneliness is present from childhood to old age. Loneliness assumes a different form… Continue reading Solitude Is Not Loneliness
Temporary Escape Or Solution?
Temporary escape or solution? “Everyone has escapes,” writes Nancy Potts in her book “Living Between The Times.” “Some people overeat, others watch TV soap operas, become workaholics, enter on nonstop activities … try to dull the pain with alcohol or drugs. The possible ways to escape are endless. However, the end result is self-pity and… Continue reading Temporary Escape Or Solution?
