It’s essential that you recognize when you’re living out of balance. “Are you out of your mind?” That’s a common expression we hear. It implies imbalance in thought processes. But there are three other factors in our being that could go out of balance: body, heart, soul. You’re “out of your body” when your natural… Continue reading When You’re Living Out of Balance
Bored? Look for meanings when bored. Boredom involves a loss of energy, interest, and momentum. It may be temporary or chronic. Boredom is cured when you find meaning in the things you do. The current global pandemic has locked up or restricted a lot of people. Boredom is one of its serious side effects. A… Continue reading Look For Meanings When Bored
Loneliness is on the rise. People do all sorts of things when feeling lonely. Even absurd or strange things. What specific situations or experiences in your life make you feel so lonely? Jane Park was a lonely millionaire. The news reported that she offered men an annual allowance of p1.4 million pesos to date her.… Continue reading Loneliness Is On The Rise
How can you deceive your self? Francois de la Rouchefoucald once wrote, “We are so used to disguising ourselves from others that we end up disguising ourselves from ourselves.” One time, I was speaking to two lawyers. Husband and wife. In a marital therapy session. The wife showed pictures, text messages, and even a video… Continue reading How Can You Deceive Your Self?
Do beat your fears! According to well known psychologist and author Dr. Dan Neuharth, fears are “perceived deficits.” Ignore it? Hide it? Deny it? Look the other way? Pretend? Overreact? Narcotize it? If you try any of these, you’re not overcoming your fears. Instead, you risk alienating and harming your self. Nurse Leo was the brother… Continue reading Do Beat Your Fears
You can’t control other people. It’s a basic fact about humans. In my psychotherapy work, it’s a common symptom of mental disorders: to be controlling of others and their actions. People often neglect, deny, or ignore it. Or, just honestly unaware of what it is. The personal fallout is inevitable: unnecessary suffering. Ongoing misery. Martha is… Continue reading You Can’t Control Other People
How can I solve a problem for you? Maybe you have a problem that keeps you awake at night. You feel your life will change when that problem stops being a problem. Candy, 31, has been in recovery from addiction to drugs and alcoholism for 5 years. She took her first drug and booze together… Continue reading How Can I Solve A Problem For You?
In addiction psychotherapy, slips as a learning experience is a key healing factor. A “slip” is usually defined as a brief return to one’s abused drug-of-choice – a damaging chemical, object, feeling, behavior, or relationship. A client, David, was into weekly casual sex with males picked up in spas or public restrooms. He’d usually get… Continue reading Slips As A Learning Experience
It’s always too soon to quit. That’s what Norman Vincent Peale once advised. Why do people quit when much is the reward? After a couple of sessions with his wife, Bob quitted. “It’s uncomfortable. I’m afraid about what I’m seeing. I don’t want to go on with this pain,” he said. Result? His wife disappeared… Continue reading It’s Always Too Soon To Quit
Are you narcotizing your inner problems? I mean by the use of drugs, alcohol, over-busyness, casual sex, and in sundry different ways. Worldwide, people spend billions of dollars on alcohol and drugs. All, in an effort to escape inner problems. Alcohol and drugs tend to lessen anxiety temporarily. But they paralyze the higher brain centers where… Continue reading Are You Narcotizing Your Inner Problems?