Understand your transference. Dr. Jacqueline Olds, Dr. Richard Schwartz, and Harriet Webster, in their book “Overcoming Loneliness in Everyday Life,” write: “Transference is actually a simple concept. It means that we are not capable of experiencing a relationship as genuinely new and completely free of distortions. Instead, our experience with people in the present is… Continue reading Understand Your Transference
Category: Loneliness
Get Over Your Pride
When you get over your pride, you begin to heal and grow. Countless people struggle with this though. It’s a common and widespread source of personal brokenness. It is of two kinds: good and bad. It’s good, for instance, when you feel proud of your kid’s medals or accomplishing something to save people’s lives. Get… Continue reading Get Over Your Pride
Avoid Premature Termination
People heal in psychotherapy when they avoid premature termination. Therapist Dr. Ryan Hooper defines “premature termination” in psychotherapy as: “a patient’s decision to end therapy, contrary to both the therapist’s current recommendation and the initial agreement between therapist and patient” If you’re going through therapy right now, it’s important that you understand “premature termination” and… Continue reading Avoid Premature Termination
Find Purpose In The Pain
Find purpose in the pain. I once heard the Pope praying that he dies quickly when it’s his time without the pain. “I’m not very good at pain,” he’d admit. In my psychotherapy work, people hate pain. The pain of their emotional wounds. Their trauma in life. “I feel a lot of pain. Cant sleep.… Continue reading Find Purpose In The Pain
Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
Practice affirming the unaffirmed. It can be a most important single factor in effective psychotherapy. Harry was a mental health worker in a psych facility. He didn’t train in psychotherapy. But he knew what to give to a mentally disturbed person. One of the sickest patients he had was a psychotic woman. She’s been there… Continue reading Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
From Lamentation to Happiness
Let’s learn to turn from lamentation to happiness. Is lamentation your way of life? During this time of the Coronavirus pandemic, we all experience grief. We experience the problems, the heartache, the misfortune that has beset us. Under the weight of all these losses and woes, we feel a need to mourn and lament. And… Continue reading From Lamentation to Happiness
Never Walk Away From Your Self
A basic principle in mental health is to never walk away from your self. Chronic mental health problems, such as involving depression, loneliness, or addiction, always involves “eviction of one’s sense of self.” This “eviction of one’s sense of self” is worse than being evicted from your home or apartment. It’s deadlier. Last week, Dindo… Continue reading Never Walk Away From Your Self
Learn to Think Clear and Pure
To reach your goals – what you want for your life – you need to learn to think clear and pure. That takes concentration. With effort – enough or more. The point is, it can be done. It’s self-evident that you cannot think clear and pure without concentration. If your thoughts fly here and there,… Continue reading Learn to Think Clear and Pure
What Are “False Values?”
What are “false values?” An article from Bright Side cites 9 false values that modern society imposes upon us. One is this one: “A successful person should have a car, an apartment, and the latest iPhone.” A Chinese client, Wong, came from a rich taipan family. Five years after college, he had a nervous breakdown.… Continue reading What Are “False Values?”
You Must Accept Your Self Come What May
You must accept your self come what may. Healing through self acceptance is to tell yourself to accept yourself. Warts and all. A lot of people are depressed, insecure, or addicted due to a lack of or inadequate self acceptance. As we walk around this confused world, we’re bombarded with so many false values. False… Continue reading You Must Accept Your Self Come What May
