Create happiness rather than chase it. A lot of people chase happiness. The constant mindset is, “I’ll be happy when _______.” It’s always a search for something outside. An external circumstance. All to make one feel happy. But this “chasing of happiness” in the external has never worked. I learned this principle from therapist Jennifer… Continue reading Create Happiness Rather Than Chase It
Category: Illness and Death
Love and Emotional Problems
Love and emotional problems. Can you get the connection? There are many emotional problems involving love. When my first client in my practice came to see me, it’s a love-related emotional problem. Noel (not his real name) was suffering from severe depression. His wife committed infidelity. It’s with one of their trusted employees in the… Continue reading Love and Emotional Problems
Heal Through Consequences
Heal through consequences. Consequences are those that happen to a person as a result of his or her choices. One type is “NATURAL CONSEQUENCES.” They happen to a person, say an addict or a violent freak. Out of his own accord or doing. It means without any outside intervention, such as from family and friends. … Continue reading Heal Through Consequences
Our False Self Is A Cover-Up
Our false self is a cover-up. It’s a part of us, which is unauthentic and strained. Charles Finn, in describing our struggles with our false self, writes: “Don’t be fooled by me. Don’t be fooled by the face I wear. For I wear a mask, a thousand masks, masks that I’m afraid to take off,… Continue reading Our False Self Is A Cover-Up
Beware: Porn Kills You
Beware: Porn kills you. Porn thrills you. Then, it kills you. When it gets full-blown, it leads you to the grave. “I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to stop it. But I can’t choose and control it. I wanna die,” shared Rey, a married medical doctor of his many-years secret activity during… Continue reading Beware: Porn Kills You
Forgive But Also Face The Facts
Forgive but also face the facts. Forgiveness is a major key to healing deep psychological wounds. Psychology, science, and medicine now strongly assert that forgiveness is imperative to mental health. That’s why it’s important to have a right and clear understanding of this one important tool in psychotherapy. Mary was physically beaten and emotionally abused… Continue reading Forgive But Also Face The Facts
Why Therapy Is More Intuitive
I’ve discovered that therapy is more intuitive. It shows in how people progress or change. By “intuition,” I mean a person’s capacity or grade level in progressively sensing and feeling the truth. Some call it common sense, knowingness, or even extra sensory perception. Encyclopedia Britannica gives a technical definition: “Intuition: the power of obtaining knowledge… Continue reading Why Therapy Is More Intuitive
Your Life Depends On Stable Data
Your life depends on stable data. Stable data and mental health go together. One definition of sanity states that it’s “the ability to tolerate confusion and to recognize a stable datum.” We may call it the “stable data principle” of mental health. In every person, there appears a “gradient scale” of the relative values of… Continue reading Your Life Depends On Stable Data
How Do You Deal With A Jerk?
How do you deal with a jerk? Mental health is often damaged and wounded by people who offend or wrong you. As psychiatrist and author, Dr. Paul Meier, once advised in dealing with impossible people, “It’s a jungle out there, and it’s full of jerks!” Dr. Meier defines being a “jerk” as “exhibiting any selfish… Continue reading How Do You Deal With A Jerk?
We Have Hope Beyond The Grave
We have hope beyond the grave. Awhile ago, I was watching images on TV of large masses of graves in the streets of India. They died from Coronavirus. India, the world’s worst Covid surge this 2021, finds itself drowning in the millions of deaths and illnesses of its people. Such image reminds us more strongly… Continue reading We Have Hope Beyond The Grave
