People heal in psychotherapy when they avoid premature termination. Therapist Dr. Ryan Hooper defines “premature termination” in psychotherapy as: “a patient’s decision to end therapy, contrary to both the therapist’s current recommendation and the initial agreement between therapist and patient” If you’re going through therapy right now, it’s important that you understand “premature termination” and… Continue reading Avoid Premature Termination
Category: Spirituality and Psychotherapy
Find Purpose In The Pain
Find purpose in the pain. I once heard the Pope praying that he dies quickly when it’s his time without the pain. “I’m not very good at pain,” he’d admit. In my psychotherapy work, people hate pain. The pain of their emotional wounds. Their trauma in life. “I feel a lot of pain. Cant sleep.… Continue reading Find Purpose In The Pain
Surrendered Place: Are You There?
Surrendered Place: are you there? No matter what you’re going through right now, if you want to get well, consider the “Surrendered Place.” Bo Sanchez, one of my favorite inspirational authors and speakers, got Covid. He’s still home quarantining and recovering since over 20+ days ago, as I write this post. He shared about going… Continue reading Surrendered Place: Are You There?
All We Are Is Dust In The Wind
“All we are is dust in the wind.” Once said a Kansas’ band popular song “Dust in the Wind:” “I close my eyesOnly for a moment, and the moment’s goneAll my dreamsPass before my eyes, a curiosityDust in the windAll they are is dust in the windSame old songJust a drop of water in an… Continue reading All We Are Is Dust In The Wind
There Will Be Hard Days
There will be hard days. But they won’t last forever. Such as these difficult 2020 and 2021 years of the ongoing Covid pandemic. This too shall pass. In the meantime, as the world changes, people change. Many of life’s deepest lessons and realizations that rush upon us these trying times are simply not attainable during… Continue reading There Will Be Hard Days
You Are A Whole Person
You are a whole person. Every human being is composed of four essential parts: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. No one is whole or complete without all of them. This therapeutic insight is most commonly neglected by secular medical doctors, psychologists, counselors, and educators today. It’s tragic. In our culture, media, and educational systems, we’re… Continue reading You Are A Whole Person
How People Really Change
Within the self is where you witness how people really change. Every one of us can change for the better. Every day is a day of opportunity for that to happen. As Leo Tolstoy said, “True life is lived when tiny changes occur.” You look in the mirror. Take stock of your self. Ask: “Who… Continue reading How People Really Change
Understanding Shame and Its Cure
Psychotherapy is the business of understanding shame and its cure. “I feel ashamed,” said a teenager about his years of pornography habit. “It gets me to think of killing my self.” In my life when I was a teenager, I got hooked in chess and collecting chess books. I played in tournaments and needed resources… Continue reading Understanding Shame and Its Cure
Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
Practice affirming the unaffirmed. It can be a most important single factor in effective psychotherapy. Harry was a mental health worker in a psych facility. He didn’t train in psychotherapy. But he knew what to give to a mentally disturbed person. One of the sickest patients he had was a psychotic woman. She’s been there… Continue reading Practice Affirming the Unaffirmed
When People Drive You Crazy
When people drive you crazy, what do you do? There’s no doubt that we get crazy when we don’t get what we want from people. Shiena was about to blow her lid last night. Her anxious nerves were mixed with anger towards her husband. She complained about her husband’s insensitivity, criticisms, and lack of attention… Continue reading When People Drive You Crazy
