It’s important to your mental health that you listen to and understand your emotions.
Listen. Understand. Your feelings.
To do otherwise is to deny your heart. The denied feelings then surface in other forms.
For example, Roberta. She’s so irritable. Even with the slightest provocation, she lashes out at others. Then she blames them.
Her anger is a common feeling. But it can mask underlying layers of un-dealt emotions, such as depression, fear, grief, self pity, or insecurity.
When you don’t listen to and understand your emotions, you’re at odds with your self. You’re bound to misinterpret what you feel.
Emotional confusion is particularly true and typical among men in our society.
Michael Thomson, author of the book “Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys,” writes about this thing.
He said that males, from an early age, are reinforced for having 2 or emotional responses only.
Primarily, competitiveness, aggression, and withdrawal.
In contrast, Thomson continues, females are encouraged freer and wider range of emotional expression.
It’s like the girls are handed 64 coloring crayons. While the boys are given only 3 crayons.
It’s no wonder when boys become adults. They have a difficult time listening to and understanding their emotions.
In psychotherapy, it’s for this gender—specific reason that we find the males specially evasive or resistant.
Most men find their feelings locked up. Misinterpreted. They only let them out only when they can’t hold them anymore.
It takes tender loving care to bring the men out of the shadows so you they can finally learn to listen to and understand their emotions.
“The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.” – Blaise Pascal
“Feeling is what you get for thinking the way you do.” – Marilyn Vos Savant
“I don’t let my mouth say nothing my head can’t stand.” – Louis Armstrong