Heal by loving yourself unconditionally. Baron has a bad habit. He’s used to distancing himself from people. Whether relatives or friends, he keeps all of them at arm’s length. “I guess I’m afraid of getting hurt again,” he remarked during a Skype therapy session. He knows he needs people in his life. Yet there’s a… Continue reading Heal By Loving Yourself Unconditionally
Category: Sex Addiction Therapy
Stay Right When You’re Wronged
Here’s a best principle to abide by: Stay right when you’re wronged. A man told me over a Zoom session, “We were married for 15 years and she came home one day telling me that she’s having an affair with a foreigner. Shortly, she falsified documents to remarry. 10 years of the affair, she died… Continue reading Stay Right When You’re Wronged
Born Naked And Die Naked
Born naked and die naked. It’s the lot of every human creature. All of us, 100 out 100! What does billionaire Manny Villar and Tondo squatter dweller Pedro have in common? Both were born naked. Both will die naked. All of life, the world forces us the illusion to focus on externals for your… Continue reading Born Naked And Die Naked
Do Not Idolize Your Child
Do not idolize your child. Or, your relationship with him/her. “My children reject me. They’re not responding to my calls and messages. They’ve been siding with their Mom and her wealthy affair partner. It pains me how much they’re being unfair to me. I did the best I could to reach out to them,” recounted… Continue reading Do Not Idolize Your Child
Get Over Your Mistakes
Get over your mistakes. “I’ve ‘karma’ anxiety, doc! My past extra-marital affair still haunts me and my present relationship,” Rico shared during our Zoom session. It’s a mistake Rico made 10 years ago! It continues to affect him and his daily functioning. He still beats himself up with it. At a recent 2022 Oscars awards… Continue reading Get Over Your Mistakes
Do A Relationship Health Check-Up
Do a relationship health check-up. Relationships are essential to mental health. They’ve to be nourished or they wilt and die eventually. It’s true whatever is the type of the relationship – between spouses, parents and children, friends, co-workers etc. Relationships suffer when they fail to “evolve.” Which is a basic part of its nourishment and… Continue reading Do A Relationship Health Check-Up
Is Life Just A Means to Make Money?
Is life just a means to make money and become “someone?” Think of how the world operates and teaches us, both explicitly and implicitly. Two major illusory “goods” promoted by the world to absolutely spend your life on — make money, be “someone.” In 2017, Karen died at 43, with double cancer. Before her death,… Continue reading Is Life Just A Means to Make Money?
Have The Right Perspective
Have the right perspective to heal you. Psychopathology is based on a wrong perspective of reality. The wrong perspective creates bad consequences to one’s life. Often wounded emotions are involved in clouding or falsifying one’s view of reality. Mina, for instance, shouted “You’re my Dad!” to her husband when he’s not. Mina lived within her… Continue reading Have The Right Perspective
Be Your Own Unique Self
Be your own unique self. You are unique. There’s only one you. Your individual voice is always unique. But much of life could interfere with the development and expression of your uniqueness. Meet Carla, for example. She’s a talented painter who entered our therapy session with much tears. “I want to be an artist, not… Continue reading Be Your Own Unique Self
Should You Stay or Move?
Should you stay or move in place? In our modern world, people move a lot. They ignore connectedness to others so long as for economic gain or one is in good health. For example, in the Philippines, we have millions of OFWs (overseas Filipino workers). They voluntarily leave home and live far away from family… Continue reading Should You Stay or Move?
