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Stay Right When You’re Wronged

Here’s a best principle to abide by: Stay right when you’re wronged.

A man told me over a Zoom session,

“We were married for 15 years and she came home one day telling me that she’s having an affair with a foreigner. Shortly, she falsified documents to remarry. 10 years of the affair, she died of cancer. Years after she died, my adult children betrayed, deceived, and cut contact with me. Their Mom’s affair partner used money to lavish them with gifts and sent them to live overseas.”

You can imagine the depths of this man’s sorrow and psychological/emotional trauma and woundedness. He was a victim of severe, deliberate wrongdoing.

At times, it can be so hard to understand why things happen. Why God allows them in your life. God did not cause the wrongdoing. But He allowed it. And you ask, “Why?”

People have wills. God does not overturn the freedom of a person to choose to do wrong. Yet remember this: though the wrongdoer appears to get away with wrong, God has His payback one day.

It’s the law of sowing and reaping. Hindus call it karma. “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked: for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap,” as the Apostle Paul put it (Galatians 6:7)

stay right when you’re wronged

When you have been wronged, you have 4 choices:

1 Be in denial.
2 Retaliate.
3 Heal, psychologically and spiritually.
4 Create your best life.

Psychologist and psychotherapist Dr. Rick Wanson, in Psychology Today, writes,

“There’s been mistreatment or injustice. Now what? The practice: stay right when you’re wronged … An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”

In times of grief and pain, lean on the One who can provide you healing that nothing can destroy. Take refuge in the Almighty for your best life onwards.

“The Lord … heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147)

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