Where do you seek ultimate fulfillment?
Mental health (or, psychopathology) is often associated with one’s beliefs and sources of “ultimate fulfillment.”
A lot of people, for example, seek their ”ultimate fulfillment” or base their self worth or identity on externals, like money, possessions, work, connections, fame, among others.
So when these externals break down or disappear, they also find themselves breaking down or disappearing!
The greatest illusion is getting ”ultimate fulfillment” in passing things — seeing things that are temporary as if they’re permanent.
“Doc, I feel so empty in my marriage. Dissatisfied. Ang daming kulang!,” said Sylvia in one of our Skype sessions.
In Sylvia’s case, her marriage felt like her “be-all.” She carried an expectation of being “fulfilled” by her husband.
So that’s exactly where the biggest problems arose inside her mind and heart!
A famous local writer once lovingly told his wife, “You know, sweetie, you have a super big mountain of emotional needs. Even if every man in the Philippines gives you a gift or lines up to spend time with you, it would still not be enough!”
From the Christian standpoint, that’s what happens when you seek ULTIMATE FULFILLMENT in anyone (eg. spouse, friend, child etc) or anything (eg. money, house, career etc) OUTSIDE of Jesus Christ.
Until you go to Him to have your emotional and all other needs met, no wife or husband or any human being on the planet could satisfy you.
Only JESUS CAN FILL YOU UP, including your “super big mountain of emotional needs.”
Ultimacy belongs only to God.
“So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” (2 Corinthians 4:18)
“The LORD will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; you shall be like a watered garden.” – Isaiah 58:11
“Hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” – Romans 5:5
“This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” – 1 John 4:10