Find the meaning of your pain.
Writer Franz Kafka once said, “The meaning of life is that it stops.”
Psychiatrist Dr. Viktor Frankl, author of “Man’s Search for Meaning” and survivor of Adolf Hitler’s Nazi death gas chamber, wrote:
“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.”
You ask yourself what’s the meaning of the pain that has happened in your life.
What is the meaning of it that can reveal new paths for you for which you can be responsible beyond the pain.
Upon reaching the house, a former local pastor discovered secret romantic email exchanges in the family desktop computer. It’s between his wife and a rich foreign national working in another country.
The pastor’s wife was having a cyber affair with the other man whom she met in an online dating site. A lot of money flowed to fuel the marital betrayal, the travels and gifts, to treat and deceive the children, and falsify personal legal documents.
The unrepentant wife disappeared and lived in with the other man for 10 years of continuing adultery in the country where the foreigner was. The pastor struggled to heal himself during those long years of wilderness … till finally he was able to significantly survive and heal himself. He learned to forgive his wife, forgive her betrayal partner, and forgive himself for his own mistakes.
On the 10th year of the continuing betrayal, his wife suffered two deadly types of cancer: colon cancer and lung cancer. The twin cancers eventually led to her painful death in her early 40s.
About two years after her death, the pastor married a loving, faithful Christian woman. She’s almost of the same age as his first wife and an infidelity survivor herself.
During the decade of his wilderness of waiting and the years after his first wife’s death, the pastor was called by God to a new path, a new direction, a new calling, a new service opportunity- doing psychotherapy/psychology “undercover mission” work in the secular mental health field.
His meaning behind the pain has been helping countless individuals and couples from different parts of the world heal from the trauma of betrayal and infidelity. It’s a global practice coming from his own deepest personal and professional journeys.
He’s able to author 3 published books and multiple articles related to psychotherapy and spirituality, mental health websites and blogs, and get featured on TV, radio, and webcasts, such as in ABS CBN, GMA7, TV5, UNTV, 700 Club, DWWW 774, Inquirer Radio, and Radyo Veritas, among others.
He has been sharing his survival story because his own healing, new path and mission, in God after the betrayal, are all connected to helping heal and save others.
Discover meaning through new paths after the pain of your traumatic life experience. Life is short.
New paths involve leaving the past behind, being present in the present, and pressing on to the future of fresh choices, fresh identity, and fresh mission in life.
Find the meaning of your pain.