Understand your transference. Dr. Jacqueline Olds, Dr. Richard Schwartz, and Harriet Webster, in their book “Overcoming Loneliness in Everyday Life,” write: “Transference is actually a simple concept. It means that we are not capable of experiencing a relationship as genuinely new and completely free of distortions. Instead, our experience with people in the present is… Continue reading Understand Your Transference
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Get Over Your Pride
When you get over your pride, you begin to heal and grow. Countless people struggle with this though. It’s a common and widespread source of personal brokenness. It is of two kinds: good and bad. It’s good, for instance, when you feel proud of your kid’s medals or accomplishing something to save people’s lives. Get… Continue reading Get Over Your Pride
Avoid Premature Termination
People heal in psychotherapy when they avoid premature termination. Therapist Dr. Ryan Hooper defines “premature termination” in psychotherapy as: “a patient’s decision to end therapy, contrary to both the therapist’s current recommendation and the initial agreement between therapist and patient” If you’re going through therapy right now, it’s important that you understand “premature termination” and… Continue reading Avoid Premature Termination
Find Purpose In The Pain
Find purpose in the pain. I once heard the Pope praying that he dies quickly when it’s his time without the pain. “I’m not very good at pain,” he’d admit. In my psychotherapy work, people hate pain. The pain of their emotional wounds. Their trauma in life. “I feel a lot of pain. Cant sleep.… Continue reading Find Purpose In The Pain
Take Failure in Stride
To press on in life, the ability to “take failure in stride” is a major psychological tool. Healing in psychotherapy is an evolution. It’s based on a person’s natural progression. You’d have to appropriate leisure and fun along the way to better your self. To rest up, from life’s challenges and crises. That very much… Continue reading Take Failure in Stride
Surrendered Place: Are You There?
Surrendered Place: are you there? No matter what you’re going through right now, if you want to get well, consider the “Surrendered Place.” Bo Sanchez, one of my favorite inspirational authors and speakers, got Covid. He’s still home quarantining and recovering since over 20+ days ago, as I write this post. He shared about going… Continue reading Surrendered Place: Are You There?
All We Are Is Dust In The Wind
“All we are is dust in the wind.” Once said a Kansas’ band popular song “Dust in the Wind:” “I close my eyesOnly for a moment, and the moment’s goneAll my dreamsPass before my eyes, a curiosityDust in the windAll they are is dust in the windSame old songJust a drop of water in an… Continue reading All We Are Is Dust In The Wind
There Will Be Hard Days
There will be hard days. But they won’t last forever. Such as these difficult 2020 and 2021 years of the ongoing Covid pandemic. This too shall pass. In the meantime, as the world changes, people change. Many of life’s deepest lessons and realizations that rush upon us these trying times are simply not attainable during… Continue reading There Will Be Hard Days
Resist Addictive Cravings
Addicts need strategies to resist addictive cravings. Without it, relapses are bound to get out of control. Ray was a porn and sex addict. When he started therapy, he essentially had no strategies in place to manage his addiction. For instance, the matter of “decoding feelings.” Ray’s sex is about addiction, not about healthy sexuality.… Continue reading Resist Addictive Cravings
You Are A Whole Person
You are a whole person. Every human being is composed of four essential parts: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. No one is whole or complete without all of them. This therapeutic insight is most commonly neglected by secular medical doctors, psychologists, counselors, and educators today. It’s tragic. In our culture, media, and educational systems, we’re… Continue reading You Are A Whole Person
