Do you realize that you can love better with aloneness?
Aloneness is usually somewhat associated by many with loneliness. It is a feeling that can strike anyone, anytime, anywhere.
If you are here and reading this post, chances are high that you are familiar with the feeling of being alone.
As I write this, I’ve been benefiting from a time of aloneness away from my wife. We had an LQ.
For those days, I was walking and eating and sleeping alone in the city.
I noticed how loud and clear that still small voice can speak inside me when alone.
It’s a deep, soulful feeling. It cleanses. It refreshes. It invigorates.
Before I can fully grasp what’s happening, I was already exchanging love and sorry-notes with my wife in my iPhone.
Author and Indian leader, Osho, in one of his literary works, wrote this insight:
“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot he taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.”
There it is. Aloneness, seeking peace with your self first. Your life and relationships depend on it.
Practice fruitful aloneness to love better.
(Art: ‘One Reflection’, 1998 by Clive Smith)
Photo: Philo Thoughts
Book: SECRETS OF YOUR SELF
by Dr. Angelo Subida