Understand forgiveness and reconciliation.
It’s crucial that you know the difference between the two experiences for your own mental health and overall well-being.
Forgiveness is one-way. Reconciliation, on the other hand, is two-way.
You don’t have to wait for the other person to repent or change before you forgive. It’s a work of grace and healing in your heart.
But that doesn’t mean that you can have a relationship or reconciliation with those who harmed or betrayed you.
God is our model.
People must choose to own up their sin, repent, and change direction, then God will open Himself up to them.
Do not think that just because you have forgiven that you have to reconcile.
You can offer reconciliation, like the Lord to His people.
But it must be contingent upon the other person owning her behavior and producing trustworthy fruits.
Reconciliation and forgiveness start by facing your self honestly. Honesty about the truth is what creates and sustains authentic, lasting relatuonships.
“fruit in keeping with repentance” (Matthew 3:8)