“Get over it whatever it is.”
Thus says Karen Casey, one of my favorite healing authors. She is author of the bestselling book, “Let Go Now,” among others.
Get over it. Whatever it is.
What could that possibly mean?
It has to do with how we see or deal with difficult people and trying circumstances in our lives.
My client, Michail, always finds himself remembering past slights, offenses, and abuses he experienced from his father when he was young.
Childhood recollections and memories of his father’s verbal and physical abuses still disturb his well being up to this very day.
His father, who is now in his 60s, has already become remorseful and changed a lot. Yet Michail can still easily conjure up slights and hurts even with the slightest provocation whenever he paid him visits at his home.
This then makes him feel his feelings of being hurt again and so angry all over again. It’s a never-ending, repetitive cycle that Michail was able to resolve later on in therapy.
The whole issue is not about living perfectly.
I used to say to individuals and couples during sessions with who strive to heal and change, “It’s about progress, not perfection, dear.”
Even just bits and pieces of progress, as consistently and regularly as possible.
The whole issue of getting over things whatever they may be is simply a matter of full acceptance.
“Fully accepting” of people as they are in their life journey is one key. Accepting that it’s not your job to change people or even expect them to change.
With God’s help, you can be fully accepting of people and circumstances as they are so you can “get over it whatever it is.”
“You can’t change what has already happened so don’t waste your time thinking about it. Move on, let go, and get over it.” – Orebeta Gbenga
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain