Seek peace first with your self. You accomplish that by dealing with and resolving your inner conflicts. Face those inner conflicts rather than avoid them. Mary, a young woman in-session over Whats App, said to me, ”Doc, i don’t know why I’m like this, can’t hold a relationship, can’t forgive, can’t control my drinking and… Continue reading Seek Peace First With Your Self
Heal like Malcolm X was his self education. It became his ticket to his future. In 1946, Malcolm X was convicted of a crime. He was sent to prison for seven years. When he went to prison, he could not even write his name. He never finished beyond Grade 8 in school. He was frustrated… Continue reading Heal Like Malcolm X
Find the meaning of your pain. Writer Franz Kafka once said, “The meaning of life is that it stops.” Psychiatrist Dr. Viktor Frankl, author of “Man’s Search for Meaning” and survivor of Adolf Hitler’s Nazi death gas chamber, wrote: “Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather recognize… Continue reading Find The Meaning Of Your Pain
Practice forgiveness therapy. Unforgiveness takes heavy physical, emotional, and psychological toll. It chips away at the foundation of your mental health and overall well-being. Health experts at John Hopkins report that the act of forgiveness can reduce the risk of heart attack, lower cholesterol levels, improve sleep, reduce pain, lower your blood pressure, and decrease… Continue reading Practice Forgiveness Therapy
Where do you seek ultimate fulfillment? Mental health (or, psychopathology) is often associated with one’s beliefs and sources of “ultimate fulfillment.” A lot of people, for example, seek their ”ultimate fulfillment” or base their self worth or identity on externals, like money, possessions, work, connections, fame, among others. So when these externals break down or… Continue reading Where Do You Seek Ultimate Fulfillment?
Don’t let pride deceive your heart. “The pride of your heart has deceived you,” says Obadiah (1:3). What happens when good things or blessings in your life become sources of pride? How can pride deceive you? Psychopathology often comes from a proud heart. Paul, a long time patient, filed for financial bankruptcy in the middle… Continue reading Don’t Let Pride Deceive Your Heart
Be careful who you marry or love. According to Facts and Rates for 2022 in over 115 studies: ”Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. Researchers estimate that 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce.” That’s just one country, the United States, which places… Continue reading Be Careful Who You Marry or Love
Be strong in gentleness. Do not confuse gentleness with weakness. Gentleness plays a special, important role in relationships. In today’s culture, gentleness is seen as weakness. It’s a false idea. Reno got “strong.” He lashed out at his wife in anger – pointing fingers at her and highlighting her shortcomings – after feeling disrespected. He… Continue reading Be Strong In Gentleness
Be willing to be able. Beth, one of my clients, once talked about her husband during our Zoom session, saying, “I have decided not to pursue therapy because it seems it will take a long time for Joe to change and I don’t think I can spend another 20 years waiting for that.” She’s pissed… Continue reading Be Willing To Be Able
How do people grow? There is the story of a little girl passing by a garden. She saw a beautiful flower amid large amounts of dirt. She quickly picked it thinking that it’s too beautiful to be in the dirt. Upon reaching home, the girl washed the dirt away from the flower. But shortly thereafter,… Continue reading How Do People Grow?