Is parenting fair? One mother once shared her hurt, “I do and do and do for my adult kids. I sacrificed a lot so I can feed and send them to school. Yet when I got sick, they ignored me and didn’t help me. When are they going to be grateful?” It’s a different picture… Continue reading Is Parenting Fair?
Do A Relationship Health Check-Up
Do a relationship health check-up. Relationships are essential to mental health. They’ve to be nourished or they wilt and die eventually. It’s true whatever is the type of the relationship – between spouses, parents and children, friends, co-workers etc. Relationships suffer when they fail to “evolve.” Which is a basic part of its nourishment and… Continue reading Do A Relationship Health Check-Up
Is Life Just A Means to Make Money?
Is life just a means to make money and become “someone?” Think of how the world operates and teaches us, both explicitly and implicitly. Two major illusory “goods” promoted by the world to absolutely spend your life on — make money, be “someone.” In 2017, Karen died at 43, with double cancer. Before her death,… Continue reading Is Life Just A Means to Make Money?
Have The Right Perspective
Have the right perspective to heal you. Psychopathology is based on a wrong perspective of reality. The wrong perspective creates bad consequences to one’s life. Often wounded emotions are involved in clouding or falsifying one’s view of reality. Mina, for instance, shouted “You’re my Dad!” to her husband when he’s not. Mina lived within her… Continue reading Have The Right Perspective
Be Your Own Unique Self
Be your own unique self. You are unique. There’s only one you. Your individual voice is always unique. But much of life could interfere with the development and expression of your uniqueness. Meet Carla, for example. She’s a talented painter who entered our therapy session with much tears. “I want to be an artist, not… Continue reading Be Your Own Unique Self
Should You Stay or Move?
Should you stay or move in place? In our modern world, people move a lot. They ignore connectedness to others so long as for economic gain or one is in good health. For example, in the Philippines, we have millions of OFWs (overseas Filipino workers). They voluntarily leave home and live far away from family… Continue reading Should You Stay or Move?
Take Your Walks Mindfully
Here’s one secret you should know: take your walks mindfully. I always have good long walks. At times, 10,000 steps or more. I can walk mindfully on the busiest street, park, mall, market, or some nature place. Someone asks me, “Why, the long walks?” Oh, because of my busy ego. Its weakness is trying to… Continue reading Take Your Walks Mindfully
Be A Positive Person
Be a positive person. Life smiles when you strive to be a positive person. It’s one of mental health’s precious secrets to a better life. You practice it and you’ll be ok whatever goes around or in you. “I pity myself. My partner is ignoring me again. What can I do? I just walked out… Continue reading Be A Positive Person
Manage Your Stress Well
Manage your stress well. In this post, I’ll just be sharing with you about Nona Freeman’s top 36 tips for managing stress well. These all looks like something we can all apply right now: 1. Pray 2. Go to bed on time. 3. Get up in time so you can start your day relaxed… Continue reading Manage Your Stress Well
Learn to Love Again
Learn to love again. When I lost my wife many years ago, I thought I won’t be able to love again. This love thing was put on hold. Do I need another woman to learn to love again? Dr. Sigmund Freud, dubbed as father of psychology, once wrote, “We ride with our ancestors on streetcars.… Continue reading Learn to Love Again
