Be willing to be able.
Beth, one of my clients, once talked about her husband during our Zoom session, saying,
“I have decided not to pursue therapy because it seems it will take a long time for Joe to change and I don’t think I can spend another 20 years waiting for that.”
She’s pissed off. Struggling to be hopeful and willing. On the verge or has already given up on their marriage.
Beth feels that her husband, and more likely she too, were “unable to be willing” and “unwilling to be able.”
The biggest challenge in psychotherapy – healing life individually and relationally – is always accomplishing these two basics:
- able to be willing
- willing to be able
Again, as in any storms we face in life, perspective is critical. We can’t fulfill those two basics until we learn to see the bigger picture.
How about you? What storms are you experiencing right now in your own life?
You can overcome those storms. You can move on, believing that no matter what comes along, you can figure out a solution.
Never stop doing your best. LIFE can go from 0 to 100 instantly.
“The sinner, apart from grace, is unable to be willing and unwilling to be able.”
— W.E. Best
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4)