Know your true worth and identity.
In the 1980s, I was a leading chess player, captain, writer, and organizer in my university. I became chess champion. Chess was my life.
When graduation came, I became depressed, lost, and anxious. I felt petrified. I didn’t prepare for a life outside chess and the university.
I didn’t know who I was. I felt so distressed because much of my youth had been defined by my being a chess champion.
Winning made me feel I was worth something. One of consequence and value. My life was like getting addicted to or hooked in a kind of drug.
Only to be disillusioned. The identity I embraced was a fast-fading, fleeting satisfaction. It didn’t give me true, deep, and lasting personal fulfillment.
Are you in search of your true identity? Where lies your lasting sense of consequence and worth?
My clients in psychotherapy struggle with this question all the time. Especially when dealing with their difficult emotions, thoughts, and what they do in their lives or relationships.
They mistakenly thought that their true identity, worth, and satisfaction is in their temporal performances and possessions.
Dr. Timothy Keller offers some insights when he wrote,
“More than other idols, personal success and achievement lead to a sense that we ourselves are god, that our security and value rest in our own wisdom, strength, and performance. To be the very best at what you do, to be at the top of the heap, means no one is like you. You are supreme.”
“The false sense of security comes from deifying our achievement and expecting it to keep us safe from the troubles of life in a way that only God can give.”
Know your true worth and identity. It’s in God working in your life – not in gods or God-alternatives that can’t and never deliver.