Mental health is an act of accepting imperfections and mistakes.
It’s part of human nature. Your imperfections. Your mistakes. Your limitations. You are not god. You are not God.
“I can’t accept it. My lowest grades due to my negligence. After having honors I deserve better. Yet because of the pandemic, I find myself demotivated. Unable to focus. I can’t accept that and this pandemic! I don’t feel like studying anymore, what for?” shared a top university student, Marina (not her real name), during our Zoom session.
Marina identified her self with a false identity. She thought she is her performance, her emotions, her psychological difficulties, her reputation, her imperfections and mistakes.
We all have a shadow, that wounded side of our being. Even with our best efforts, there will always be imperfections, limitations, and mistakes we’d commit in our existence.
Healthy detachment is the distance you put between your self and fleeting internal and external realities to allow you to appreciate the stability of your Higher Self that makes up your true identity.
Such “disidentification” opens doors to personal healing and growth as well as moments of grace and creativity.
I like how writer Jacques Leclerc put it:
“To love oneself humbly …
It is part of the human condition
To be wounded by the powerless.
Are we guilty of being a man or a woman?
The first response to our limitations
Should not be blame,
But very gentle, very humble, very serene acceptance”
The call to wholeness is accepting imperfections and mistakes as they really are.
“All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.” (Ephesians 2:3-5)