Don’t waste your emotional pain.
“I’m overwhelmed. When he abandoned me, I felt so lost and crushed. I don’t know what to do now with my life … if it’s still worth it,” sobbed Marina over Viber.
Emotional pain made Marina to want to isolate. Or, hit back. Even harm herself. It’s very tough to rise above natural inclinations when so pained.
At first, Marina succumbed to the abandonment and rejection. She stopped work for weeks. She stopped taking care of herself, taking her customary walks and bus rides all over town.
In trauma situations like this, emotional pain, indeed, can be too much to handle. Yet always remember to find its hidden “gift.” Once Marina discovered this, her depression resolved.
Emotional pain can be good. It can build you a positive, healthy character.
But first, you need to be at “home” enough inside yourself. Be available to your own self.
If nobody is present there, how can you expect to transform the emotional pain to something good that builds your character?
Present, discerning self reaches your deeper layers that builds good, strong character.
Don’t miss out on it.
Don’t waste your emotional pain. Take stock. Seek counsel. Talk to yourself. Self-care. Remember that it won’t last forever.
Author Eckhart Tolle writes,
“Focus attention on the feeling inside you. Know that it is the pain-body. Accept that it is there. Don’t think about it – don’t let the feeling turn into thinking. Don’t judge or analyze. Don’t make an identity for yourself out of it. Stay present, and continue to be the observer of what is happening inside you. Become aware not only of the emotional pain but also of “the one who observes,” the silent watcher. This is the power of the Now, the power of your own conscious presence. Then see what happens.”