Choose what you want to harvest.
A good, happy life results from good harvests. It involves noticing what seeds you’re sowing in your life and relationships.
In psychotherapy, good seeds are critical to heal and change life. You sow in your unconscious mind so you’ll reap in your body, mind, and soul.
Last night, I was speaking to Gary, a wounded Dad, over a Skype session. He’s in much emotional pain.
His eldest daughter just recently shouted at him, “Shut up! Shut up! You’re never a good Dad! You abandoned me!”
Understandably, Gary felt so hurt. And out of that hurt, he lashed out at his daughter.
“You bitch! I had you when I was just a teen. Get out of my sight!” he told his daughter.
The daughter stormed out of the house, fuming. Cursing her father.
So there. The harvest multiplier effect. It all came back to Gary the seeds he’d sown in his daughter’s life.
Pain all the more deepens. Situation only worsens. The bad sowing and reaping.
Noted writer and preacher Craig Groeschel once explained life’s “law of sowing and reaping” in one of his sermons.
He cited 3 things to observe in this law:
- You reap what you sow.
- You reap more than you sow.
- You reap after you sow.
Gary was asking me during session what then can he now do from here forward. He is so hurt. His daughter is so hurt.
“If you hate what you’re harvesting from the past, you change the seeds you’re planting now,” I told him, with a bit of drama in my voice and gestures.
New, present good seeds for Gary could mean a few changes like …
- Speaking to his daughter lovingly, gently, and empathically despite his own pain
- Listening to his daughter about how much he has hurt her and fully understanding where she’s coming from
- Acknowledging the wrongs (bad seeds) he has done and taking responsibility over them, asking forgiveness from her
- Making up with her now – spending time, talking and doing things more together
You see, before the reward, there must be labor. The work of good sowing before the good harvest of the next season.
The key to the desired harvest and change onward is consistency.
Successful people do the right things consistently what unsuccessful people do occasionally.
Choose what you want to harvest.
“Your brain is your garden, what you sow is what you will reap. Seed it with hope, positive energy, good manners, and creativity. Irrigate it with faith, hard work, and good company.”
— Zeyad Massry
