Stop taking things personally.
Last night, over at Zoom, Rio and Rey were in a tense, conflicted marital session with me.
“We’re going in circles. Over and over, he’d piss me off with his bad moods and unfair critiques. I feel like punching him on the face,” Rio said loudly.
Rey reacted, “There you go again! If you’ve not been rude and disrespecting to me, I would not have those bad moods. You’re the reason why I don’t feel like going home after work.”
Rio and Rey were both severely hurt and angry by each other’s remarks and behavior. A case of taking things too personally from each other.
Aside from curative internal processes, both can benefit from making external efforts to stop the never-ending repetitive cycle.
According to HealthyPlace, there are things you can do to stop taking things personally, namely:
Remember too that when you take things personally, there are often secrets you keep from yourself.
These secrets are there because of unmetabolized wounds or issues, such as fears of emotional and other losses.
Two characteristics can describe one’s fragile experience of taking things personally:
- There is a mental movie that gets stuck at the worst underlying emotional and psychological part;
- These underlying roots are often unconscious conflicts that highlight worst-case scenarios without enough regard to reality.
“All men should strive to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why.” — James Thurber
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