Prepare to die with a lived life. Wendy Lustbader, well-known psychotherapist and author, writes: “Tragedy is to die with unlived life still inside us.” Unlived life. That idea has the power to open our eyes and transform us. Our time on earth is short. Our capacities are limited. In many instances, we are called to… Continue reading Prepare To Die With A Lived Life
Don’t waste your emotional pain. “I’m overwhelmed. When he abandoned me, I felt so lost and crushed. I don’t know what to do now with my life … if it’s still worth it,” sobbed Marina over Viber. Emotional pain made Marina to want to isolate. Or, hit back. Even harm herself. It’s very tough to… Continue reading Don’t Waste Your Emotional Pain
Have you been betrayed? The weight of the past few weeks have been heavy for me. The betrayal and deception of those I love left me feeling crushed and brokenhearted. It crushed me to think that one of them would hurl unjust accusations and malicious motives to me. She just believed fake news and blamed… Continue reading Have You Been Betrayed?
Who is your real family? Is your family a place where loneliness disappears? “My mother beats me up. And my brother and sister join her. One day, I joined a church community where I found my real family who truly love and care for me,” shared Lisa during a Zoom session. A sad, hurting reality… Continue reading Who Is Your Real Family?
Heal by loving yourself unconditionally. Baron has a bad habit. He’s used to distancing himself from people. Whether relatives or friends, he keeps all of them at arm’s length. “I guess I’m afraid of getting hurt again,” he remarked during a Skype therapy session. He knows he needs people in his life. Yet there’s a… Continue reading Heal By Loving Yourself Unconditionally
Here’s a best principle to abide by: Stay right when you’re wronged. A man told me over a Zoom session, “We were married for 15 years and she came home one day telling me that she’s having an affair with a foreigner. Shortly, she falsified documents to remarry. 10 years of the affair, she died… Continue reading Stay Right When You’re Wronged
Born naked and die naked. It’s the lot of every human creature. All of us, 100 out 100! What does billionaire Manny Villar and Tondo squatter dweller Pedro have in common? Both were born naked. Both will die naked. All of life, the world forces us the illusion to focus on externals for your… Continue reading Born Naked And Die Naked
Do not idolize your child. Or, your relationship with him/her. “My children reject me. They’re not responding to my calls and messages. They’ve been siding with their Mom and her wealthy affair partner. It pains me how much they’re being unfair to me. I did the best I could to reach out to them,” recounted… Continue reading Do Not Idolize Your Child
Get over your mistakes. “I’ve ‘karma’ anxiety, doc! My past extra-marital affair still haunts me and my present relationship,” Rico shared during our Zoom session. It’s a mistake Rico made 10 years ago! It continues to affect him and his daily functioning. He still beats himself up with it. At a recent 2022 Oscars awards… Continue reading Get Over Your Mistakes
Do a relationship health check-up. Relationships are essential to mental health. They’ve to be nourished or they wilt and die eventually. It’s true whatever is the type of the relationship – between spouses, parents and children, friends, co-workers etc. Relationships suffer when they fail to “evolve.” Which is a basic part of its nourishment and… Continue reading Do A Relationship Health Check-Up