It’s a multimillion dollar question: How Do I Know I’m Ready to Change?
You have questions you can ask your self to truly know you’re ready to change:
1. How worse will it has to happen before I’m ready to change?
2. At what point I’ve to admit that I’ve become out of control?
3. How much am I prepared to lose in pursuit of my addiction or dysfunctional choices?
4. How much pain am I willing to endure for the sake of my problem?
5. Would my life be better with or without my addiction, thoughts or behaviors?
6. When will be enough be enough for me? After 5 years of misery? After I lose my marriage, my family, my money?
7. What would I be willing to do to get free?
Tony, a client struggling to get free of his porn addiction, missed an appointment. That’s after only 4 beginning therapy sessions.
He texted and said, “Doc, sorry I can’t make it. My friends came by and I can’t say no. I’ll let you know when we will have my session again.”
It’s typical, the “subtle evasion tactic.” Yet sad for it’s basically another round of self destruction behavior.
I do have witnessed countless situations when people are not ready to heal and be free.
They insist or employ varied evasion “tactics:” Over-rationalization. Excuse making. Blame shifting. Projecting their faults to others. Or, simply ignoring and denying reality.
At the same time though, I’ve also witnessed marvelous cases of psychological healing and recovery of broken individuals, couples, and families.
Each of them is a testimony that healing, freedom, and wholeness is very possible. When one humbly accepts reality and goes through the necessary process, one gets well.
The principles of psychotherapy move towards the direction of “whole person” recovery. It’s body, mind, and soul.
In the long run, it’s a most cost-effective and time-saving resource to finally take back one’s life.
How do I know I’m ready to change? Oftentimes, it’s a matter of asking the right questions and going through a right process.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” — Leo Tolstoy
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