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Boundaries After Betrayal

Setting boundaries with a deceitful, betraying loved one is essential in maintaining your emotional well-being and preserving your self-respect. 

Boundaries can be divided into external boundaries, which involve interactions with the person, and internal boundaries, which involve managing your thoughts and emotions. 

Here are specific examples of each type of boundary:


1. Communication limits: 

Establish guidelines for how and when you communicate with the deceitful loved one. This may involve setting specific times for phone calls or meetings, avoiding certain topics, or limiting the duration of conversations.

2. Physical distance: 

Create physical space between you and the deceitful person by limiting the amount of time you spend together or the activities you engage in together. This might include not attending certain family gatherings or avoiding one-on-one meetings.

3. Financial boundaries: 

If the deceitful person has betrayed your trust in financial matters, establish clear rules about money. This could involve not lending them money, not sharing financial information, or not engaging in joint financial ventures.

4. Emotional support limits: 

Be clear about the level of emotional support you’re willing to offer the deceitful loved one. For instance, you might decide not to provide a listening ear or advice when they discuss their deceitful behaviors or their consequences.


1. Emotional detachment: 

Practice detaching yourself emotionally from the deceitful person’s actions. This involves recognizing that their behavior is a reflection of their character, not your worth or the quality of your relationship.

2. Self-care: 

Prioritize your emotional and physical well-being by engaging in activities that promote self-care, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with supportive friends and family.

3. Personal values: 

Maintain a strong sense of your personal values and ensure that your actions align with those values, even when dealing with a deceitful loved one.

4. Acceptance: 

Accept that you cannot control the deceitful person’s actions or make them change. Focus on what you can control, such as your response to their behavior and the boundaries you set.

5. Forgiveness: 

Work on forgiving the deceitful loved one, not for their sake but for your own emotional well-being. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning their actions or forgetting the hurt they’ve caused but allowing yourself to let go of the resentment and anger.

6. Seeking support: 

Lean on a support network, such as friends, family, or a therapist, to help you process your emotions and navigate the challenges of dealing with a deceitful loved one.

By establishing both external and internal boundaries, you can better protect yourself from the negative effects of a deceitful, betraying loved one’s actions and maintain your emotional well-being.

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